cautiously optimisitic... again

Okay- so it seems that E and P have pretty much disappeared. I am not surprised about P- her common law (possibly abusive) husband had come back and this baby was planned after all. E, however, surprised me and I am disappointed about that. I thought we would make a plan and she seemed so stable and committed. Oh well -the good news is that that J in MO seems like she will stay on board with me. I did have a little bit of a scare with her over the last week, but I think it has settled down. After I called her on a Thursday she didn't return my call, then I called her on the next Sunday- we spoke briefly and she said she would call me back. She sounded really stressed and said she was starting a new job the next day. She didn't call me back so I called Suzanne, my lawyer on Wed and told her that I was concerned that she was not returning my calls. In my limited experience with this process, when that happens, the women tend to disappear so I was getting nervous. Oh, I forgot to say that J had returned her papers and so I had sent money to the lawyer to hold in trust for her. So, Suzanne said we wouldn't send money until we were more sure she was committed. Well, sure enough on Friday, J called very upset with Suzanne. She felt that Suzanne was questioning her commitment and Suzanne had asked her to meet with a lawyer physically. J was very stressed because she had started a new job and could not miss any days. She had already lost two jobs due to this pregnancy and was very low on funds. So, although she was upset about having to meet another "expectation" of Suzanne's her own lawyer had been able to arrange a Saturday meeting with her daughter who is a lawyer. So I released funds to her and have actually made arrangements to go meet her in 3 weeks.

So, fingers crossed, yet again!!